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Tulsa Soccer Camps | Working on Work Ethic


Hi, this is neil bent with pride soccer training and doing our, our podcast today, um, you know, this week and I had a situation where I was coaching a team and we lost, we lost by a big margin. It was, it was a bad law center, um, you know, coaching and development team, meaning they’re not the best players in their age group, not the strongest players in their age group, but they’re developing. And one thing I came across this weekend is where some of the kids, Tulsa Soccer Camps, stopped playing. I just quit playing, they didn’t want to work anymore. And so I had to come to a conclusion that there was nothing I could do at that moment to fix any of it. Like I couldn’t change anything. I couldn’t fix any of it. It was just a wild situation where as a coach your influence couldn’t do nothing because the kids didn’t want your influence.

They didn’t want, they didn’t want to do better that moment. Tulsa Soccer Camps I’m not saying that overall they don’t want to different, do better, but I’m just saying at that moment in time, they didn’t want to fix the mess. They didn’t want to work hard, they didn’t want to keep trying. And when I started to ask questions about it as a group, I was asking, Hey, why? Why are you guys not working hard? Why are we not doing any things that we talked about? Was the game plan hard to understand? And they’re like, no, it was fun. You know, they just said someone, some people remember mumbling about being lazy. They didn’t want to do the work. Um, some people will started blaming others and people aren’t doing their job. They’re not working for me. So I had no options and some of those things were true.

But it still doesn’t mean that you can’t work hard. It still doesn’t mean that you get to give up. And my question to them, the game was, where in life are you allowed to give up that you just get to quit? And, you know, there are people that do quit in life and it’s sad, but I don’t really give that, I don’t really say that as an option for them to be able to quit and give up. Um, then I started to think about what, what is the problem here, what can I do, what can I, how can I change this? Tulsa Soccer Camps I can stick it for awhile. And I was thinking about this stuff. I was learning my b license and, and how to have a team that actually functions properly. And I remember the word trust started to come and trust, trust, trust.

I was like, I wonder if they don’t trust each other. And so I started to, uh, formulate questions. I made 13 questions, really 14 questions because one has two parts. And, um, after every question I’d ask why, ask him why, why this, why that. And I’m almost the last three questions kind of where the most important three to me is a, did you, do you trust yourself? Why or why not? Do you trust the coach? Why or not? And do you trust your teammates? Why and why not? And, um, those things were not easy to answer. I don’t think I got a few responses back and I’m excited to see the results that I get from all of them because I have a funny feeling that they’re going to trust me as a whole, as a coach because I’ve already received a four, four responses back and they all trusted me.

I’m, I’m expecting to get 18. I know that, uh, when you get these types of questionnaires you can expect, um, if you get 33 percent of the population of something, you can expect that a, you get an accurate representation. So I’m thinking, you know, I may end up getting that type of result based on the numbers are already received, but um, it’s kind of sad to me that kids, that some of them are quitting, they’re not trying and they’ve given up just because things get hard and I’m trying to figure out where, where that problem lies is that it was our home life. Is it school? Is it soccer? I mean, is it sports? So I should say, um, it’s our faith where, Tulsa Soccer Camps where is it that we are losing the drive to, to keep working at something and trying hard or is it that there’s so many kids playing sports now that you’re not always seeing the top athletes perform?

So what I mean by that is growing up, I played for the same club that I coach at now and I didn’t, Tulsa Soccer Camps we didn’t have but one team per age group and you know, a club idea was kind of a new thing as it, as it started to grow. Um, and by the time I left we had sometimes two teams in the same age group, but mostly just one. And I’m just amazed how the numbers are. So I’m wondering if when I was playing with people who really were dedicated to play and wanted to play, so there was that, there was that expectation that you are going to work your butt off and keep trying and you are going to hustle or you’re going to battle, you’re going to fight. And the kids that I grew up with were all working class, uh, with the exception of maybe one.

Um, they were wealthy but he played hard and he worked hard and he was a good player. Tulsa Soccer Camps, so you know, there is that dynamic of who you are, where you grew up and who you are and what part society did you grow up in, who he surrounded yourself with. We had that and I had to learn to do certain things and I learned that from players around me and I learned how that worked, how I can improve my game by following him, copying some of the things that those players did that were better than me. And eventually I became one of the strongest players. So I guess I say all this stuff. Speaking from my experience, I’ve thought that everybody would work as hard and tries hard all the time. And I don’t think that’s always the case. I think as a coach, I have to be very careful even as a parent, be very careful not to have my 15 year old clouded goggles of what I remember myself to be an expecting others to operate.

That way. It’s just completely unreasonable, completely unrealistic and it’s not fair. And so I have to learn how to change my concepts and my ideas. Not My values, but change, change how I, how I operate and what I expect from people on how to help motivate them to become better. And that is the hardest thing as being a coach is the hardest thing is when you are with a group of people who may not be likeminded, may not have the same belief system or the same work ethic as you have or had. Tulsa Soccer Camps so now you have to adapt to change and you have to get them to believe. And so this questionnaire that I did is to try to raise up those points and show them the results and then getting them to change their belief system to where they see the results of those thoughts and those feelings and how they operate.

So they can change and that doesn’t work. I’m going to keep trying to find something that does. So I guess the hypocrisy and this would be if I were to stop trying to help them, then I’d be giving up much like they’re giving up too because things got too hard. So that is the part that I don’t plan to do. Tulsa Soccer Camps, and I think that it’s kind of funny. I, you know, the irony of, of what it could become and five, not focused on what I’m doing. So, you know, playing sports, living life is not easy. Um, we all have to be thoughtful in what we’re doing and be mindful of how we operate.

Making sure that we are always considering how to help the other person, how to help raise the youth of America and bring them up to a different level. And that’s the hard part of it all, is a adjusting, adapting and changing your generational culture or values. I’m not changing them, but changing how you perceive the new generation and their values and I’m just making sure that we are, are really helping them to change and become better. And to see some of the old values that still ring true, Tulsa Soccer Camps, like working hard and to try hard until things work, you know, it’s just this is what we do. We can’t lose those values. So once again, thank you for listening to pride soccer training podcast where we talk about all things soccer related in some life too. So, um, thank you for listening. I’ll talk to you later. Bye. Bye.